Stupid & Wrong

Paying attention is often moving away from limiting behavior and moving towards desired outcomes. In the process of paying attention our own demons, habits that maintain 'stinkin-thinkin' and the inSAMEITY of doing the same old stuff (SOS) and expecting different results, attention can fix on punishing ourselves. We may have created identities that believe (useless indoctrinated beliefs) in change with pain. There are EXERCISES that can loosen the chains of indoctrination free attention to change and move towards desired outcome., and can life can become more fun.
So if you have demons who label your efforts as 'stupid & wrong' its possible to create 'correction without invalidation' by practicing these two exercises.

Here are two simple exercises to practice: staying neutral. As all my clients are entrepreneurs, as I am, one of our biggest challenges is self judgments. The boss lives inside of us and can be more critical than necessary. (Is criticism necessary? Isn’t it all feedback?) These two exercises are in the “stick & stones may break my bones but words can never harm me” mode. Exercises are designed to stretch yourself and are intended to be fun and may fall into useful versus useless suffering mode.
1. I ‘m stupid & wrong! Stand in front of a mirror, full length if possible, and call yourself ‘stupid & wrong' until you can say it without any emotions arising. When you have the I am ‘stupid & wrong' down, try the blamer role with “you are stupid & wrong.’ Have fun with the blame game and notice when you are pointing the finger at another, three fingers are pointing back at you.
2. Correction without invalidation. This is a corollary of the first, perhaps an antidote. This requires more thought. Again stand in front of a mirror find fault with your image and offer correction without invalidating that person. Such as “You may want to plan one evening meal a week to just eat oatmeal. Its good for those few pounds you want to lose, good for your heart and it would set a good example for the others in your family.’ “When you are talking with your significant other, boss, friend it's an interesting exercise to put your attention on their story and be OK not explaining or excusing your story.

Be gentle, especially with your self.
Namaste
Gary