Help is the hardest thing to ask.

Help, I need somebody, something, some way out of here.

Is "Can you help me?" The hardest question to ask?

Is this another reason to believe that The Beatles were divinely inspired because their first movie was HELP?

As I peruse an alphabet anchor, a way to remember meanings from the alphabet, I am searching out charge words.

My criteria is what motivates me.

Motivates towards or motivates away?

Going down the alphabet to H, I was motivated to move away, “I mean I don’t need any HELP, I can do it myself.”

There is a charge in asking for help, so H is for help in my New ABC’s.

I have some counter productive beliefs around this word.

Beliefs I sure don’t want any grandchildren to catch, or maybe they will catch them and it will be an opportunity, as my wise fisherman son practices, to Help with “Catch & Release.”

Here are some beliefs about HELP:

The ego believes it has to be right, so there is no space to ask for help.
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Only weaklings ask for help. The Fonz or John Wayne never asked for help.
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If you ask someone for help you have to listen and do what they tell you, and I don’t want anyone telling me what to do.
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If I ask for help then people will know I don’t know, then they might think I am not invincible.
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Help is humbling; a more graceful word that I could have chosen to let me off this helpless treadmill and not have to explore my own helpless beliefs.
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Think of all the excuses and blame I’d have to give up if I asked for help.
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Being an adult, especially an elder, means never having to ask for help.

That’s a bunch of indoctrinated, self-defeating beliefs that keeps attention stuck, outcomes limited, and leaving me to continue to create from trial and error.

Lots of errors or even worse, lots of giving up.

So I would like your help.

Business is going well and it’s important for you to know I have time for you, your friends and family members. If you would like to refer your family members. I can help free fixed attention, create entertaining content and help you find your way

For the grandchildren of the world, ask for help, it’s as easy as pushing the F1 key on a PC.

But REMEMBER to ask nice.

Grandpa

Gary

Inspiration

Inspiration is like a bath, never hurts to take another one.

Perhaps you wonder about my maxim, Paying Attention is my Best Investment in the Future. After all if you just let things slide don’t they have a way of working themselves out anyway?

Isn’t it really enough to get by day to day?

Why should you care to give your best to the way your life turns out?

Statesman, Patrick Henry answered this complacency with:

“Why stand we here idle?
What is it the gentlemen want?

What would they have?
Is life so dear, is peace so sweet, as to be purchased at the price of chains & slavery?
Forbid it all mighty God.
I know not what course others may take, as for me
Give me Liberty or give me death.”

Patrick Henry

The meaning is clear; complacency is a form of slavery. The shackles are comfortable and easy to slip into. They require nothing but disinterest and indifference.

As the plumbers say, “Shit runs down hill and payday is on Friday.”

Why wait for disaster to wake you?

Can you make change without pain?

Yes! Yes! Yes!

Scrub down the filth of ‘stinkin-thinkin’ and find that foundation of your being where the desire to make a difference lives.

It is time to add your creativity to life.

Remember the bakery slogan, “Life is short, eat desserts first.”

Stressed is desserts spelt backwards, so maybe we have that tasty part of life backwards.

Do not let gravity suck you down. Use its force to identify the ruts and ask, “Where have I stopped paying attention?”

Step out of the rut, and get into your groove.

“Slow down you move to fast, gotta make this morning last. Just kicking down the cobblestones, looking for fun and feeling groovy.” Simon & Garfunkel were insightful and a little bubble gummy, but being in the groove or getting your groove back is an attention builder.

Use your attention to build your excitement and enthusiasm for life.

Do it now, because tomorrow never comes. Tell others. Be an early adopter to change.

Become an enthuser, someone who fires others with spirit.

For help finding your enthuser, or your message call me.

510-722-3212 http://www.garycsmith.net

If I weren't me, I'd envy me.

"If I weren't me, I'd envy me," was a revelation from The Sugi Way founder Ofer Erez.

It rings a number of times for me.

From being called conceited in junior high to carrying the sledge hammer of self abasement, during challenging times.

The person I found least appreciating was me.

Its not a PC thing to do, blow your own horn. I have wanted to write about “Shameless Self Promotion’ but a garden variety of false-humility

So from a paying attention point of view, lessons in atonement (at one minute), are a stepping stone to self-appreciation.

The subject is rare in religious liturgies.

My favorite atonement is from Marianne Williamson poem on Fear used by Nelson Mandela in his inauguration.. The challenges he faced, to come from prison, win an election and enlighten his country with the message:
“Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.
It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us.
We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented & fabulous??
Actually, who are we not to be?
You are a child of god, your playing small doesn’t serve the world..
There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you.
We are born to manifest the glory of god that is within us.
It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone.
When we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same.
As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”

There are many identities within me, those that resonate this poem, I appreciate, honor and envy.